Brilliant Life by Divine Design

How good are you at self-forgiveness?   Maybe you’re going through a season of transition or growth  which can start an endless spiral of shoulda, coulda, woulda’s. Especially if there’s an area of failure, perceived or real.   Hindsight is always 20/20.  But if you’re getting caught in your own crossfire of blame, shame or guilt, take a time-out to check your self-talk and self-THOUGHT. Without consciously meaning to, you may be stuck in a whirlwind of unforgiveness.   Toward yourself.

All day today, I had this sense of a nagging irritating feeling like an incessant, yet invisible little yipping dog tagging after me.   I went for a walk, watched a movie I had rented, yet the irritation remained.   Finally near dinner time, I took a solitude/journaling break.  I have a process that I call ‘stepping through the looking glass’ where I posture myself to view what’s going on from a different perspective.  One word showcased itself in my mind’s eye.    Unforgiveness.    Not toward another, but toward myself!    

So that was the annoying nagging sensation I had all day!   Then as this revelation unfolded,  I found myself working a little extra hard to not be further annoyed that it took all day to uncover!   Oftentimes true forgiveness toward yourself can be the hardest.   Why?    Well, with one hand there’s the pointing finger of accusation AT you, while you’re opening the palm of the other hand attempting to receive God’s loving-kindness and self-forgiveness.   That’s why journaling it out for me, keeps me sane!   It almost unfailingly gives me the breakthrough.  

I heard someone quip recently that they were glad pencils have erasers.  I am too.  I saw myself erasing my name that topped this imaginary unforgiveness list.  There, gone. 

If you’ve ever had to walk out the effects of unforgiveness toward yourself, you’ve probably discovered, it isn’t loving, it isn’t sacrificial, it isn’t BENEFICIAL to keep yourself from the ‘grace place’ of forgiveness.   Cut yourself some slack, come into agreement with a loving God who knows, sees and loves you–mistakes, bungles, failures and all. It’s that very limitless loving-kindness that facilitates positive change in our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions as it seeps into the very essence of our being with its balm.  Seeing yourself with a fresh, loving,  alive perspective as God does is the go-to antidote for unforgiveness toward yourself.   It’s free flowing, available 24/7, and ours for the asking and taking.   So, if God’s not keeping a list, why are we?   Real or imagined, your name on the list, as well as the list itself has to go! 

As you free yourself from the blame-shame-guilt game mindset of unforgiveness, new success solutions will be drawn to you. The air has been cleared and you step back into alignment with yourself, God and others. New free-flowing energy returns. It’s the perfect atmosphere needed for next-step forward momentum.

How about you?    Does the unforgiveness list have your name written on it?   

Today’s Journaling Point:       

 

‘As I purpose to forgive myself for (fill in your blank)__________ , what action might I take today as a fruit of receiving forgiveness for myself.’

My prayer for you today is a free-flowing day of self-forgiveness in every area of your life!  

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

‘One divine insight is worth it’s weight in gold!’  – Coachpreneur™ Judyann

Learning to overcome our own objections and areas of resistance in moving forward with a dream,  plan or  goal is part of the game.      When you hit resistance, determine your game plan.  Are you going to wait this one out?   Fight, fight, fight?    Cave?   What’s YOUR best game plan when you are obviously up against a wall of resistance?

Today, as I pondered a point of resistance I am experiencing the phrase floated in – – ‘stand up, sit down, fight, fight, fight’!    I could hear the chant in my mind from my high school cheerleading days as we cheered on the Humboldt High School sports team.   In the quick visual flash accompanying the chant,  I saw the big high school letter ‘H’ superimposed over the mascot image, but the chant when confronted by resistance suddenly became this –

And then wisdom floated in right behind it.

The insight came, ‘pull out your resistance busting toolbox.  Aha, I almost forgot about the toolbox.  Resistance sometimes does that to you, playing hide and seek with the techniques, strategies, stop-gap measures  we’ve stored in our unique toolbox.   Nonetheless, we all have, can find, OR create just such a toolbox.   Circumstance by circumstance, as we overcome, get the ‘aha’, get the victory, we learn to store the tool that worked best on the top drawer of the toolbox.

So today,  I chose two tools by inspiration and began my resistance busting moves.  What are they?   The STARE DOWN and Whoosh! Be Gone!

The STARE DOWN tool works like this, you turn, face the resistance eyeball-to-eyeball and start the stare down.  Whoever blinks or laughs first wins.   That’s right, wins.  In normal stare downs, you would lose, BUT since resistance doesn’t have a sense of  humor and I DO, this is a no-brainer for me.      Each time it taps me on the shoulder, I turn and initiate the STARE DOWN, with some attending humor.  It’s a simple straightforward tool that I rely on from my toolbox.    Stare it down and break it with a laugh.  Or a blink, if that’s all you can muster.

The second tool is a swift wave of the hand in obvious dismissal.  Much like swatting a fly.  Quick, easy, effective.  I’ts the Whoosh, Be Gone! tool.   Give a wave of your hand the moment the resistance starts the mental ball rolling in your mind, change the channel with these words and a demonstrative flail of the hand, saying WHOOSH! BE GONE! 

The takeaway?   Know thyself.  Develop a toolbox that fits your uniqueness.     Keep it mentally, emotionally and spiritually handy and easily accessible. We all need creative and varied strategies for each resistance roadblock encountered.  Resistance presents itself with so many masks:   fear, anger, hurt, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness, unworthiness, procrastination.   It’s not a one-tool-fits-all kind of fix, but there are tools.  And your tools used strategically on the resistance nagging you, cause the breakthrough.

You may want or need help, guidance and encouragement while creating your toolbox.  Just knowing you need a toolbox however, is a top-shelf tool in and of itself!

Here are some questions to ponder.    Do YOU have a readily accessible toolbox for resistance busting?   What are they?  Which  tools work best for YOU with the different masks resistance presents to you?

I’m here today to encourage and help you meet resistance that keeps incessantly ringing your front doorbell, knocking at the back door and keeps you dashing back and forth to answer it’s call.   There are tools to break down and banish resistance, and even turn it to your advantage!
I’m cheering for you!

Stand up, sit down, fight fight fight!     –   Coachpreneur™Judyann

Coachpreneur™ Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design®

 ‘One  divine insight is worth it’s weight in gold!’  – Coachpreneur™ Judyann

Need help creating  a toolbox that empowers you in overcoming resistance ?    Want strategies to block, bust, disintegrate your resistance masks?   Schedule a complimentary 15-minute Insight Session today.  Go to the contact page, send a quick email and I’ll get you scheduled in just as soon as possible!

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It’s my passion, purpose and divine assignment to creatively mentor, coach and encourage Women of Destiny into their Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

When’s the last time you had a belly laugh so hard you cried.   It’s been awhile for me, but I can vividly recall what had happened when it did, and it was so refreshing to realize that JOY is within and can be tapped with just the right keys.  The belly laugh is a true sign of joy and perhaps happiness.  But did you know that in the midst of really tough trials and circumstances you can have joy that overrides the pit you may be in?     As part of our Divine Design we have all the necessary tools and techniques to tap into our divine inheritance of JOY.

It’s such a bright day today at Brilliant Life by Divine Design© and I can’t wait to meet you and share our community!

I’m looking forward to helping my clients really tap, deeply tap their inner joy through our new community ‘Heart-Sense™ | Joy Circle here at Brilliant Life.  

Feel free to email me at:    info@brilliantlifebydivinedesign    and we’ll be sure to get you full forthcoming details.  Or sign up at the right to keep posted with our ‘Brilliance by Design’ newsletter.

Wishing you a joy-filled day!

 Coachpreneur™ Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

There are seasons of intense refinement that can usher in new ways of thinking, acting and believing. In this season, there will be ‘Treasures of Darkness’ that will prove invaluable, irreplaceable and irrevocable, qualifying our very spirit, soul and body for greater measures of success, love and clarity.

Are you in just such a season?  Here are some keys to walking, standing and sitting during this high season of what may surely feel like life-altering treason against all you’ve accomplished, all you’ve dreamed and all you are working toward.

Firstly, as the veils come down, the light comes in and the shadows make themselves known, purpose to STAY IN THE PRESENT. Each day will bring revelation and insight, illumination and clarity with each decision that needs to be made, each feeling that needs to be felt and each authentic action that helps to keep the river of change fluidly moving.

Secondly, acknowledge its difficulty, the absolute rawness of such a season. Perhaps you are facing a job loss, an illness, a life-changing unwanted and unasked for transition, financial distress or major relationship changes. The odds may seem AGAINST you, but as you accept, acknowledge and succumb to the realities and truth of the season, the situation and yourself, you can allow space for God’s Divine Hand to guide you, lead you and provide connections and resources to pull you into newfound action, to provide the necessary insight and knowledge to weather the storm.

Thirdly, seek help, counsel and resources outside your normal spheres and contacts. I have a sister who sends me unusual but always timely articles and clippings that help springboard new ways of thinking, tips and clues as I follow the path to higher ground. Do you have someone like that in your life? If not, let this be the season to find just such new contacts. They are ALL AROUND YOU. Just look up and be willing to LOOK INTO new ways, new friendships, new resources.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. This is the time to eliminate the excess, simplify, beautify and clarify your thoughts, actions and attitudes. Keep it simple. Ask with each expectation you put on yourself, is this reasonable and wise given my current circumstances? If not, say no — to yourself, to others and to outside agendas. You are in the ‘hopper’ and may be spinning as many plates as you can.

Allowing the power principles of faith, hope and love to permeate each aspect of your unique situation can serve to quiet the mind, inspire your heart and cause rest for your body.

And finally, a gentle reminder to ‘journal your journey’…your uniquely gleaned ‘treasures’ will help you remember what price you may have paid, what loss you personally suffered, and yet how the unmistakable hand of God, in goodness and mercy, ushered you through.  Those highlighted gleanings of your unique journey will help fill in the necessary puzzle pieces as you see the tapestry of God’s handiwork in your life.

May your ‘treasures of darkness’ usher in brilliant new light and life in every way.    May the Spirit of the Living God touch your heart, mind and spirit today with newfound blessings from your season ~~  Blessings.

Blessings ~~  SPIRITLife  Coachpreneur Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design®