How good are you at self-forgiveness?   Maybe you’re going through a season of transition or growth  which can start an endless spiral of shoulda, coulda, woulda’s. Especially if there’s an area of failure, perceived or real.   Hindsight is always 20/20.  But if you’re getting caught in your own crossfire of blame, shame or guilt, take a time-out to check your self-talk and self-THOUGHT. Without consciously meaning to, you may be stuck in a whirlwind of unforgiveness.   Toward yourself.

All day today, I had this sense of a nagging irritating feeling like an incessant, yet invisible little yipping dog tagging after me.   I went for a walk, watched a movie I had rented, yet the irritation remained.   Finally near dinner time, I took a solitude/journaling break.  I have a process that I call ‘stepping through the looking glass’ where I posture myself to view what’s going on from a different perspective.  One word showcased itself in my mind’s eye.    Unforgiveness.    Not toward another, but toward myself!    

 

So that was the annoying nagging sensation I had all day!   Then as this revelation unfolded,  I found myself working a little extra hard to not be further annoyed that it took all day to uncover!   Oftentimes true forgiveness toward yourself can be the hardest.   Why?    Well, with one hand there’s the pointing finger of accusation AT you, while you’re opening the palm of the other hand attempting to receive God’s loving-kindness and self-forgiveness.   That’s why journaling it out for me, keeps me sane!   It almost unfailingly gives me the breakthrough.  

I heard someone quip recently that they were glad pencils have erasers.  I am too.  I saw myself erasing my name that topped this imaginary unforgiveness list.  There, gone. 

If you’ve ever had to walk out the effects of unforgiveness toward yourself, you’ve probably discovered, it isn’t loving, it isn’t sacrificial, it isn’t BENEFICIAL to keep yourself from the ‘grace place’ of forgiveness.   Cut yourself some slack, come into agreement with a loving God who knows, sees and loves you–mistakes, bungles, failures and all. It’s that very limitless loving-kindness that facilitates positive change in our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions as it seeps into the very essence of our being with its balm.  Seeing yourself with a fresh, loving,  alive perspective as God does is the go-to antidote for unforgiveness toward yourself.   It’s free flowing, available 24/7, and ours for the asking and taking.   So, if God’s not keeping a list, why are we?   Real or imagined, your name on the list, as well as the list itself has to go! 

As you free yourself from the blame-shame-guilt game mindset of unforgiveness, new success solutions will be drawn to you. The air has been cleared and you step back into alignment with yourself, God and others. New free-flowing energy returns. It’s the perfect atmosphere needed for next-step forward momentum.

How about you?    Does the unforgiveness list have your name written on it?   

 

Today’s Journaling Point:       

 

‘As I purpose to forgive myself for (fill in your blank)__________ , what action might I take today as a fruit of receiving forgiveness for myself.’

 

My prayer for you today is a free-flowing day of self-forgiveness in every area of your life!  

 

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

 

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

‘One divine insight is worth it’s weight in gold!’  – Coachpreneur™ Judyann