What are you facing today?

Is there a fear you aren’t facing?   Sidestepping?    Hoping will just vanish?     What have you relied on in the past that is just not working today, as you face new fears or one of life’s storms?

There is a saying that goes like this:  ‘bulls run into a storm, cows run away from it’.

Well, we’re not cows or bulls but human nature doesn’t always want to face problems, fears, anxieties head on.   We may need a little time to stop, turn around and FACE the storm. To be strengthened to go into it full on.  Get the help we need. Depending on the size of the fear, or force of the storm, we may begin to look for alternative ports FROM the storm while IN the storm.  That’s where it gets interesting.

What might you be relying on for guidance?   There’s no crystal ball, tea leaves at the bottom of a cup, or daily horoscopes that will safely, clearly, truly lead you out of your storm.   But there is a source that will never fail, never mislead, never condemn, and never point you in the wrong direction.   Never.

That source is the spirit of the living God richly abundantly purposefully dwelling within and without —  willing, longing, desiring us to call upon His magnificence and wisdom.    Our part?   We need to cut the clatter, quell all the voices and get to the still quiet waters of God.

I know from personal experience facing and living through some very difficult storms that my attempts to just do something, anything almost always met with more struggle,  until I got quiet and listened.

When I listened, gleaned, interpreted God’s path from our time together, then purposeful action arose and it met with little resistance.

The right people showed up, solutions appeared and opportunities arose.

God is really good at showing us our part, and defining what is His part.   I’ve noticed it always seems to involve surrendering something, whether a misbelief or lie about God and his love toward us, about what we’ve believed or been told about ourselves that isn’t true, or perhaps even the magnitude, scope and size of the situational storm and the very fear attached to it.     I believe it’s at that point of acknowledgement and surrender that clean clear waters flowing with solutions come to us.

There are times to read, journal, study scripture or other wonderful books and teachings, but for the biggest storms we face, I am convinced not only by experience but by His very witness to me that we must be still and  ‘come to the garden alone’ for insight, clarity and direction.

From that time spent in practicing God’s presence, abiding, communing with God, our unique intimate relationship is formed, strengthened and made secure.   Within our intimate relationship with God,  we’ll get the direction, the answers, the first steps to our desired destination filled with overcoming solutions, trusted advisors and needed resources.

That’s where the power is, where the answers await discovery, and solutions with a personal divine ‘mapquest’ attached can be found.

Have you acknowledged that source today?   Have you invited God into your problem?

The storm takes on a whole new hue when you do.  It doesn’t look so ominous, threatening and debilitating.   Seems smaller already doesn’t it?

‘Bulls rush into the storm, cows run away’…… 

Divine enablement and guidance is yours for the asking.  May today be a day of quiet resolve, peace and supernatural solutions.

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Your Personal Spiritually Savvy Insights Coach

            ‘One Divine Insight is Worth Its Weight in Gold’ –               Coachpreneur™ Judyann

Ever struggle with personal boundary setting?  And once set, reinforcing them?

When we set boundaries in relationships, it may be necessary to go past the point of head knowledge and emotional sensing to spiritual discernment for the boundary reinforcement.   Take for example the tirade of another verbally coming against you with every accusation and affront possible as a defense to you confronting bad behavior.     While this person may be trying to blame-shift their way out of responsibility, the affront to you is painful, real and offensive.   

If we come into agreement with the mud-slinging.

Learning to shift quickly to a spiritual birds-eye view perspective may help you know best how to handle what’s coming against you and your boundaries.     From this stance you may be able to spiritually discern the negative force at play, not only at work with the violator, but also attempting to trigger your defenses in the hopes of escalating the confrontation.     Learning to discern spiritually gives you the insight needed to choose how you’ll deflect the arrows coming at you.

Recently I had an experience that tested my resolve.  It was a relationship boundary that had been crossed once too often.    Previously I either ignored or minimally responded.   This time, however as I shifted to spiritual insight, I knew my tack had to change.   I deflected the arrow with a spiritual truth, not a personal obvious truth.    I de-escalated the confrontation with clear, distinct words of spiritual insight and clarity that left no room for doubt as to their meaning.    It immediately changed the dynamic of the confrontation.  Instead of engaging in a battle of the wills I chose a spiritual response that reinforced the previous boundary in a whole new way.    I still had to stand firm emotionally and verbally enforce the boundary, but as I shifted to a spiritual view the negativity diminished.     It was as though the  wind had been taken out of the blame-shifting negativity sails trying to operate.

When confronted with a negative familiar pattern  in the form of a boundary violation by another, it takes an unfamiliar response to stop the interchange.   When we  mentally or emotionally come into agreement with the negativity, we give credence to its power and usually enflame the situation to a greater degree.  But as we perhaps see spiritually the woundedness, the hurt, the fear trying to control the situation — in them OR US –we have fresh ways with more choices in responding.    Spiritual discernment isn’t magical, it isn’t mystical, but it’s  real and oftentimes an overlooked aspect of boundary keeping.

For example, it’s easy to see outright anger in someone’s actions, behaviors and words.  It isn’t always easy to discern the full-spectrum spiritual meaning of the scene.    Someone who still operates from a place of woundedess may react out of anger as the only way of seemingly protecting themselves.    You don’t need to be a therapist to recognize that simple truism, but it does take keen spiritual discernment to see the root, the tree and the branches of the cause giving you added anti-inflammatory tactics to work with.

Woundedness, rejection, abandonment, fear all have spiritual dynamics that operate as a defensive pose to a controlling needy ego and the unregenerated soul.   When viewed spiritually, a response of love, albeit tough love spoken truthfully may be the antidote to anger’s emotional posture.    It can be the checkmate move needed to stop the conflict, causing a new dynamic and level of empowerment needed to reinforce a boundary while staying above the obvious fray.

Assessing and responding from an empowered  place of spiritual integrity is a wonderful tool to assist and help  keep your boundaries intact.    There may still be some emotional fallout, a tinge of mental anguish but spiritually the battle has been won, as you purposed to respond from a whole and spiritually assessed viewpoint.  No one gets it right every time, we all misjudge at times, but those times that you know that you know you used spiritual insights and integrity to deflect the fray is very fulfilling.

Hindsight is 20/20, but spiritual insight is powerful NOW, in the present.

Power struggles, boundary charges, personal affronts are part of life.   Employing aspects of spiritual insight can be a game changer in boundary setting and boundary keeping.

If you’re worn out trying to logically or emotionally convince another of boundaries that are important to you, shift to viewing from a spiritual perspective.  Insights gained and employed from that perspective may be just the remedy needed.

Coachpreneur™ Judyann | Your Spiritually Savvy Insights Coach©

‘One Divine Insight is Worth Its Weight in Gold’ – Coachpreneur Judyann

 Brilliant Life by Divine Design LLC©

How good are you at self-forgiveness?   Maybe you’re going through a season of transition or growth  which can start an endless spiral of shoulda, coulda, woulda’s. Especially if there’s an area of failure, perceived or real.   Hindsight is always 20/20.  But if you’re getting caught in your own crossfire of blame, shame or guilt, take a time-out to check your self-talk and self-THOUGHT. Without consciously meaning to, you may be stuck in a whirlwind of unforgiveness.   Toward yourself.

All day today, I had this sense of a nagging irritating feeling like an incessant, yet invisible little yipping dog tagging after me.   I went for a walk, watched a movie I had rented, yet the irritation remained.   Finally near dinner time, I took a solitude/journaling break.  I have a process that I call ‘stepping through the looking glass’ where I posture myself to view what’s going on from a different perspective.  One word showcased itself in my mind’s eye.    Unforgiveness.    Not toward another, but toward myself!    

So that was the annoying nagging sensation I had all day!   Then as this revelation unfolded,  I found myself working a little extra hard to not be further annoyed that it took all day to uncover!   Oftentimes true forgiveness toward yourself can be the hardest.   Why?    Well, with one hand there’s the pointing finger of accusation AT you, while you’re opening the palm of the other hand attempting to receive God’s loving-kindness and self-forgiveness.   That’s why journaling it out for me, keeps me sane!   It almost unfailingly gives me the breakthrough.  

I heard someone quip recently that they were glad pencils have erasers.  I am too.  I saw myself erasing my name that topped this imaginary unforgiveness list.  There, gone. 

If you’ve ever had to walk out the effects of unforgiveness toward yourself, you’ve probably discovered, it isn’t loving, it isn’t sacrificial, it isn’t BENEFICIAL to keep yourself from the ‘grace place’ of forgiveness.   Cut yourself some slack, come into agreement with a loving God who knows, sees and loves you–mistakes, bungles, failures and all. It’s that very limitless loving-kindness that facilitates positive change in our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions as it seeps into the very essence of our being with its balm.  Seeing yourself with a fresh, loving,  alive perspective as God does is the go-to antidote for unforgiveness toward yourself.   It’s free flowing, available 24/7, and ours for the asking and taking.   So, if God’s not keeping a list, why are we?   Real or imagined, your name on the list, as well as the list itself has to go! 

As you free yourself from the blame-shame-guilt game mindset of unforgiveness, new success solutions will be drawn to you. The air has been cleared and you step back into alignment with yourself, God and others. New free-flowing energy returns. It’s the perfect atmosphere needed for next-step forward momentum.

How about you?    Does the unforgiveness list have your name written on it?   

Today’s Journaling Point:       

 

‘As I purpose to forgive myself for (fill in your blank)__________ , what action might I take today as a fruit of receiving forgiveness for myself.’

My prayer for you today is a free-flowing day of self-forgiveness in every area of your life!  

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

Coachpreneur™Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design©

‘One divine insight is worth it’s weight in gold!’  – Coachpreneur™ Judyann

Learning to overcome our own objections and areas of resistance in moving forward with a dream,  plan or  goal is part of the game.      When you hit resistance, determine your game plan.  Are you going to wait this one out?   Fight, fight, fight?    Cave?   What’s YOUR best game plan when you are obviously up against a wall of resistance?

Today, as I pondered a point of resistance I am experiencing the phrase floated in – – ‘stand up, sit down, fight, fight, fight’!    I could hear the chant in my mind from my high school cheerleading days as we cheered on the Humboldt High School sports team.   In the quick visual flash accompanying the chant,  I saw the big high school letter ‘H’ superimposed over the mascot image, but the chant when confronted by resistance suddenly became this –

And then wisdom floated in right behind it.

The insight came, ‘pull out your resistance busting toolbox.  Aha, I almost forgot about the toolbox.  Resistance sometimes does that to you, playing hide and seek with the techniques, strategies, stop-gap measures  we’ve stored in our unique toolbox.   Nonetheless, we all have, can find, OR create just such a toolbox.   Circumstance by circumstance, as we overcome, get the ‘aha’, get the victory, we learn to store the tool that worked best on the top drawer of the toolbox.

So today,  I chose two tools by inspiration and began my resistance busting moves.  What are they?   The STARE DOWN and Whoosh! Be Gone!

The STARE DOWN tool works like this, you turn, face the resistance eyeball-to-eyeball and start the stare down.  Whoever blinks or laughs first wins.   That’s right, wins.  In normal stare downs, you would lose, BUT since resistance doesn’t have a sense of  humor and I DO, this is a no-brainer for me.      Each time it taps me on the shoulder, I turn and initiate the STARE DOWN, with some attending humor.  It’s a simple straightforward tool that I rely on from my toolbox.    Stare it down and break it with a laugh.  Or a blink, if that’s all you can muster.

The second tool is a swift wave of the hand in obvious dismissal.  Much like swatting a fly.  Quick, easy, effective.  I’ts the Whoosh, Be Gone! tool.   Give a wave of your hand the moment the resistance starts the mental ball rolling in your mind, change the channel with these words and a demonstrative flail of the hand, saying WHOOSH! BE GONE! 

The takeaway?   Know thyself.  Develop a toolbox that fits your uniqueness.     Keep it mentally, emotionally and spiritually handy and easily accessible. We all need creative and varied strategies for each resistance roadblock encountered.  Resistance presents itself with so many masks:   fear, anger, hurt, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness, unworthiness, procrastination.   It’s not a one-tool-fits-all kind of fix, but there are tools.  And your tools used strategically on the resistance nagging you, cause the breakthrough.

You may want or need help, guidance and encouragement while creating your toolbox.  Just knowing you need a toolbox however, is a top-shelf tool in and of itself!

Here are some questions to ponder.    Do YOU have a readily accessible toolbox for resistance busting?   What are they?  Which  tools work best for YOU with the different masks resistance presents to you?

I’m here today to encourage and help you meet resistance that keeps incessantly ringing your front doorbell, knocking at the back door and keeps you dashing back and forth to answer it’s call.   There are tools to break down and banish resistance, and even turn it to your advantage!
I’m cheering for you!

Stand up, sit down, fight fight fight!     –   Coachpreneur™Judyann

Coachpreneur™ Judyann | Brilliant Life by Divine Design®

 ‘One  divine insight is worth it’s weight in gold!’  – Coachpreneur™ Judyann

Need help creating  a toolbox that empowers you in overcoming resistance ?    Want strategies to block, bust, disintegrate your resistance masks?   Schedule a complimentary 15-minute Insight Session today.  Go to the contact page, send a quick email and I’ll get you scheduled in just as soon as possible!

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